What happens next !! Husband arrested for IOC

Scared2
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What happens next !! Husband arrested for IOC

Postby Scared2 » Wed May 10, 2017 10:20 am

Hi please can someone tell me what happens next ! Husband was arrested for indecent images , our home was searched and my kids interviewed (14 &18) they took his devices , later he was realised without charge pending investigation . Child services have said that since he is not living here at minute they don't need to put my 14 year old on report ! What happens next , will he be allowed to come back ect ! So confused need some advice

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Re: What happens next !! Husband arrested for IOC

Postby Foreigner » Wed May 10, 2017 11:55 am

I'm in similar situation so if you want to talk to someone you can send me a personal message. Sorry you're in this boat but you're not alone :)

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Re: What happens next !! Husband arrested for IOC

Postby Suzie, FRG Adviser » Fri May 12, 2017 1:59 pm

Dear Scared2

Welcome to the Parents’ Discussion Board.

My name is Suzie, online adviser at Family Rights Group. I am sorry that you are feeling confused about the current situation with children services following your husband’s arrest.

Due to your husband’s arrest and the fact that you have a child under 18 at home, the police made a referral to children services and it is then for them to consider any safeguarding concerns for your child. At the moment, I assume that your husband’s bail conditions do not allow him to return to the family home. Alternatively, he may have decided to leave at the request of children services pending any investigations/enquiries they intend to carry out. As your husband is not at home at the moment children services will consider your child to be safe.

On the basis of the limited information provided in your post, I think children services may await the outcome of the police investigation to decide what further steps they need to carry out. Children services could decide to carry out a child in need assessment or ichild protection nvestigations . I have included copies of our advice sheets for your information.

Whether or not your husband is able to return home will depend on a number of factors
• The nature and seriousness of his offence
• What risk he is assessed as posing to your child
• Whether he is willing to get any help that might be suggested
• It will also depend on whether you are seen as a protective factor for your child

You may wish to seek advice and support from the Lucy Faithfull Foundation. Their website is here . This is a specialist organisation that offers advice to perpetrators and families in respect of where sex offences involved.

Should you wish to speak to an adviser, you can telephone our free and confidential advice line on 0808 801 0366. The advice line is open from 9.30 a.m. to 3.00 p.m. Monday to Friday (excluding Bank Holidays).

I hope this is helpful.

Best wishes

Suzie

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Re: What happens next !! Husband arrested for IOC

Postby Scared2 » Fri May 26, 2017 10:26 am

Hi suzie
Thanks to your reply , I am still waiting to hear any advance on my situation , but I have spoken to my husband , not sure how to word this , he said he logged on to a Russian web site and came across these images , he says that the police came only because he is on a mailing list , he says he deleted pictures etc that was sent to him , he thinks he will get a caution because in his opinion the images where of older children , by this I think he means teenagers, but I said to him they are still children , he has also admitted that he uploaded a picture of my daughters bedroom and a picture of her in her school uniform with head cut out , then he says he thinks it was a generic picture from a school website ! He seems to think that his actions aren't serious enough for court etc
Social services haven't been in touch as he is not living at home , but my family are all against him , my daughter is 18 now but I can't tell her about pictures it will destroy her
Please help

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Re: What happens next !! Husband arrested for IOC

Postby Suzie, FRG Adviser » Fri May 26, 2017 4:55 pm

Dear Scared2

Thank you for your further post.

You have not asked a specific question but based on what you have said about your discussion with our husband about his arrest, I think his view that his offence is not a serious one is unrealistic. The fact is he downloaded images of children and whether he deleted them or not the police will be able to retrieve them from his computer hard drive.

The fact that he included your daughter (not clear if it is his child too), should make you even more concerned that he could do this to a child in your home and think it is alright. As your daughter is now 18 this does not remove your husband’s culpability. Whether or not you tell your daughter about the pictures is a matter for you but is she aware of the reason for your husband’s arrest and the reason for it? You should consider letting her know about the police investigation, it may or may not mean that she will ask more questions about him.

If you report your husband’s confession about uploading a picture of your daughter to the police they may want to have a conversation with her about the circumstances in which this was done.

Children services are not worried at the moment about your 14 year old as your husband is not in the property. My advice is that you do not allow him in your home even if your child is not there as children services might, if they find out, decide to take action to safeguard your child.
I suggest that you make contact with the Lucy Faithfull Foundation as advised in my previous post.

I hope this is helpful but should you wish to speak to an adviser, please telephone our advice line on 0808 801 0366. The advice line is open from 9.30 a.m. to 3.00p.m. Monday to Friday (except Bank Holidays).

Best wishes

Suzie

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Re: What happens next !! Husband arrested for IOC

Postby Scared2 » Sat May 27, 2017 8:58 am

Thanks suzie
The children do know why he was arrested , as they were here when the police searched the house , the kids are t his but he has been living here since my daughter was 10 and my son was 6 , will the police tell me their findings etc
When the police outcome comes out either way , will cs contact me or do I contact them ?
If I call the police will they tell me what is happening ? Any update etc , I thank you again for all your advice
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Re: What happens next !! Husband arrested for IOC

Postby Chancing » Fri Jun 02, 2017 11:22 am

Dear scared,
Sorry to hear about your situation. My partner is a registered sex offender so I have been through a lot of this myself.
Your husband being released, pending the investigation, simply means they won't hold him until they have finished building their case and handing it in to the Crown prosecution, it is them who will decide if your husband will be prosecuted.
I have to say there is a significant difference between down loading a few pictures, and trading images.
It makes no difference if he deleted the pictures, they will be,able to trace what he downloaded and uploaded.

I don't know what your intentions are, but it is your attitude and ability to protect your children the child welfare will be interested in.
I don't want to make judgments on your husband, but I would be inclined to be careful about what you believe.
I never took my partners word for granted, I asked for the details of his offences from the public protection unit (police). This may not be possible unless he has been prosecuted.
I wish you the luck, hope everything turns out for the best.

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Re: What happens next !! Husband arrested for IOC

Postby Scared2 » Sun Jun 11, 2017 9:59 am

Hi
Husband went to see a lawyer and he says he was told that he has nothing to worry about !!!! Still find this hard to believe , he is also saying that he is hurt that I am waiting to find out what is going to happen next as I don't believe Him , still so confused ! Major trust issue I guess , he is still saying that possession means he has folders etc but he hasn't , he says again it is all down to this email chain he says he hasn't has any pictures stored everything he got sent he deleted ???
I feel like I'm going round in circles


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