Pregnant with second child need help or advice on what will happen!
Posted: Tue Sep 19, 2017 12:54 pm
Hi
I'm 20 years old and currently 9weeks 5days pregnant with my second child.
I fell pregnant with my daughter at 16 gave birth at 17 where I was in care myself social services where instantly involved they done assements and I passed them all. Everything was good up in till she was 8 weeks old I got diagnosed with post natal depression. I never got better from it but where I was young I didn't want to accept the fact I had depression I took medication for a bit then stopped. Then when my daughter was 9 months old me and her dad split up after 3 and half years together that destroyed me and added on to my depression. Me and my daughter was living with my sister so I let her take over a bit just to help me get back on my feet.
In July 2016 I got offered my first flat for me and my daughter. I was happy that's all I had wanted for me and my daughter. But things got tough I had no idea what it was like to live on my own with a 18 month old! My family where sort of helping my sister would take her to give me a break from time to time. I then got with a boy who I really shouldn't of got with we started arguing bad and it was all happening in front of my daughter (I know this sounds terrible) on top of that I had mental health problems I got dignosed with a split personality disorder. Things got worse a lot worse so social services got involved with my daughter after a few weeks I had to attend a child protection conference. I attended the meeting with my now ex partner and my sister. Social services done a check on my now ex partner and they saw him as a risk to my daughter along with my mental health problems they put my daughter on the at risk register. This sent me over the wall I hated the fact my daughter was on the at risk I felt like such a bad mum! My mental health got worse I lost my flat my sister said she would take care of my daughter as I had no where to live. In September 2016 I had a overdose which obviously made the social very very concerned even more! They then asked me to sign a section 20 so munch daughter could stay with my sister I agreed as it was the best option for her at the time.
In November 2016 my daughter came off the at risk register as the case was now going to court for care proceedings. I still had mental health problems and was still with my ex partener even though he was seemed a risk to my daughter (even though I never saw him as a risk as he was brilliant with my daughter) social services told me it was him or m daughter if I wanted a chance to have her back in my care after the 26 weeks proceedings. I ended the relationship for munch daughter all I wanted was her back! I done everything social services had asked me to do I passed my first drug test it only came up with exctesy (which I was forced to take in a grooming incident) social services knew about that incident and didn't care it came up everything else I was clear of. Court started at the end of December 2016 i then got given contact arrangements to see my daughter at my sisters house 3 days a week. I was attending contact and then me and my sister started arguing quite a bit so I found it difficult to go round there to see my daughter.
In march 2017 I got with someone else I took him the 3rd court hearing my daughters Dad flagged up he was a risk so they done checks again it came back he had been in prison and he was worse than the other bloke I had previously been with (I had no idea about his record he said it was clean) this completely ruined my chance of having my daughter back in my care! Social services concerns was I was going to have the wrong men around my daughter and my mental health problems (even though now I haven't had any break downs in front of my daughter. They have stopped completely) my sister was granted a special guardianship order so now my daughter is living with my sister till she is 18.
I've recently found out I'm pregnant with the guy I went to the child protection conference with or my daughters Dad. (Please don't judge me) social services are aware that the guy I went CP with could be the father but not aware that it could be my daughters Dad! My question is if I had my daughter taken off me will this baby be taken aswell? Even though I've sorted myself out completely got rid of the bloke (police had to get involved) I've got my permanent flat I have contact with my daughter my mental health has really really calmed down I've even agreed to see someone from the mental health team! It will kill me to loose another child as it won't be kept In the family this time It will go straight in to care. Any advice would be good sorry for the long post.
I'm 20 years old and currently 9weeks 5days pregnant with my second child.
I fell pregnant with my daughter at 16 gave birth at 17 where I was in care myself social services where instantly involved they done assements and I passed them all. Everything was good up in till she was 8 weeks old I got diagnosed with post natal depression. I never got better from it but where I was young I didn't want to accept the fact I had depression I took medication for a bit then stopped. Then when my daughter was 9 months old me and her dad split up after 3 and half years together that destroyed me and added on to my depression. Me and my daughter was living with my sister so I let her take over a bit just to help me get back on my feet.
In July 2016 I got offered my first flat for me and my daughter. I was happy that's all I had wanted for me and my daughter. But things got tough I had no idea what it was like to live on my own with a 18 month old! My family where sort of helping my sister would take her to give me a break from time to time. I then got with a boy who I really shouldn't of got with we started arguing bad and it was all happening in front of my daughter (I know this sounds terrible) on top of that I had mental health problems I got dignosed with a split personality disorder. Things got worse a lot worse so social services got involved with my daughter after a few weeks I had to attend a child protection conference. I attended the meeting with my now ex partner and my sister. Social services done a check on my now ex partner and they saw him as a risk to my daughter along with my mental health problems they put my daughter on the at risk register. This sent me over the wall I hated the fact my daughter was on the at risk I felt like such a bad mum! My mental health got worse I lost my flat my sister said she would take care of my daughter as I had no where to live. In September 2016 I had a overdose which obviously made the social very very concerned even more! They then asked me to sign a section 20 so munch daughter could stay with my sister I agreed as it was the best option for her at the time.
In November 2016 my daughter came off the at risk register as the case was now going to court for care proceedings. I still had mental health problems and was still with my ex partener even though he was seemed a risk to my daughter (even though I never saw him as a risk as he was brilliant with my daughter) social services told me it was him or m daughter if I wanted a chance to have her back in my care after the 26 weeks proceedings. I ended the relationship for munch daughter all I wanted was her back! I done everything social services had asked me to do I passed my first drug test it only came up with exctesy (which I was forced to take in a grooming incident) social services knew about that incident and didn't care it came up everything else I was clear of. Court started at the end of December 2016 i then got given contact arrangements to see my daughter at my sisters house 3 days a week. I was attending contact and then me and my sister started arguing quite a bit so I found it difficult to go round there to see my daughter.
In march 2017 I got with someone else I took him the 3rd court hearing my daughters Dad flagged up he was a risk so they done checks again it came back he had been in prison and he was worse than the other bloke I had previously been with (I had no idea about his record he said it was clean) this completely ruined my chance of having my daughter back in my care! Social services concerns was I was going to have the wrong men around my daughter and my mental health problems (even though now I haven't had any break downs in front of my daughter. They have stopped completely) my sister was granted a special guardianship order so now my daughter is living with my sister till she is 18.
I've recently found out I'm pregnant with the guy I went to the child protection conference with or my daughters Dad. (Please don't judge me) social services are aware that the guy I went CP with could be the father but not aware that it could be my daughters Dad! My question is if I had my daughter taken off me will this baby be taken aswell? Even though I've sorted myself out completely got rid of the bloke (police had to get involved) I've got my permanent flat I have contact with my daughter my mental health has really really calmed down I've even agreed to see someone from the mental health team! It will kill me to loose another child as it won't be kept In the family this time It will go straight in to care. Any advice would be good sorry for the long post.