Also how severe are the mistakes on the report? I went through mine with a highlighter, I was very angry at the time and I just wanted rip the thing up! I think the way they word things is awful. I was asked if I planned on having children with my husband. As we only got married 2 weeks before his a...

I do believe hey treat situations with boys and girls differently. My husband is not my daughters biological dad so I believe they are treating us different on this level 2. Don’t be scared to be honest. Don’t be scared to confront people if you don’t believe something is being done unfairly: I am a...

I am in an extremely similar situation to yourself so I know exactly what you must be going through. The police didn’t arrest my husband or charge him they took away his electronics. My husband is also going to plead guilty but until the police finish their investigation my social worker isn’t allow...

I understand what your saying kami but I don’t feel children’s services have the skills or knowledge to know how to successfully assess people and help offenders move forward with the rest of their lives. As they don’t have these resources it seems a reoccurring issue that their answer is to simply ...

Every parent makes mistakes and yes something could of happened to your child, but thank god nothing did. And this is just part of being a parent: things happen and then we learn from them. A child traps a finger in the door- you then think back about what could of been done differently and what you...

My husband has very openly admitted to everything. He has told me in detail the severity of what’s gone on. He has also been extremely open with family, and also the police. He finds it helpful to be able to be so open after so many years of secrecy. Unfortunately a loan is just not an option, we ha...

Thankyou prrfectlysafedad, yet another meaningful and relatable post from yourself! “Help” is great but social services do not want to know. I am pulling teeth trying to get help for myself and My child, never mind my husband. They say their responsibility falls on my child and that’s it, that they ...

Hi Suzy Yes it has been going on for a long time. My husband is extremely depressed and being 2 hours away from his previous life isn’t helpful for him but financially he has no choice but to live with his Mum. He’s finding it very hard to know where to get help or who to contact. I received 6 sessi...

Last night I had to be cruel to be kind with him and come down very hard on him. He’s not in denial about what he’s done but he’s very lost as to what to do next and isn’t getting the support he needs from professionals. In order to keep his job he’s having to continue living a lie. Financially we n...

Unfortunately my husband isn’t my daughters biological father so I feel they already take a different view on my situation. I hoped the conference would offer us more support and communication which so far has not happened. The social worker made it clear at conference she didn’t want my husband to ...