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by QuestionMark
Fri Jul 12, 2019 8:26 am
Forum: General Discussion
Topic: losing my job
Replies: 2
Views: 821

Re: losing my job

Hey hun, so sorry you're going through all of this. I've experienced similar; ex abused me psychologically and physically for almost 2 years and on one occasion I used self-defence as I was terrified; he took a photo of the mark I left on him and used this in court. Judge decided our 'relationship w...
by QuestionMark
Fri Jul 12, 2019 8:14 am
Forum: General Discussion
Topic: Caring for my little sister
Replies: 2
Views: 842

Re: Caring for my little sister

Have you thought about homeless housing accomodation? They tend to take people aged 16-21 in, will provided them a flat with a roommate, there will be practical support for them such as finances, looking for education and emotional support. It would get her on her feet if she uses the opportunity co...
by QuestionMark
Tue Jul 09, 2019 8:16 am
Forum: Getting your voice heard
Topic: can you trust social services
Replies: 52
Views: 114211

Re: can you trust social services

Not at all. I'll give a small example; the guardian from Cafcass told the judge that she had been to all the monthly review meetings and this ended up in the judgement. Two issues with this; 1) I don't recall her saying this on the witness stand, so did she communicate with the judge after the heari...
by QuestionMark
Sat Jul 06, 2019 8:35 am
Forum: General Discussion
Topic: Baby 2 and Adoption
Replies: 2
Views: 1127

Re: Baby 2 and Adoption

Hi Suzie, sorry I just read "they would want to undertake a pre-birth assessment under the pre proceedings stage of the Public Law Outline. " and I'm a bit stunned - they never did this when I was expecting my son, there wasn't even a birth plan in place when he was born which caused utter panic. Ca...
by QuestionMark
Sat Jul 06, 2019 8:26 am
Forum: General Discussion
Topic: Anyone got a happy story?
Replies: 0
Views: 969

Anyone got a happy story?

I've been told that my having a child 'one day' 'remains an attainable goal'. Yet both my children were removed from my care, so I can only assume that this 'attainable goal' is referring to future children that I do not yet have? However, I am not in a relationship; I left my abusive husband 2 year...
by QuestionMark
Thu Jul 04, 2019 7:12 am
Forum: General Discussion
Topic: Suzie - Why do they make permanent decisions to remove children?
Replies: 1
Views: 772

Suzie - Why do they make permanent decisions to remove children?

Social worker herself said that none of the findings made in my daughters case applied to my son who was born after. My son should have been returned to me and I begged for any order possible to allow him to come home. I’ve made so many changes and judge concluded that me having a family one day “re...
by QuestionMark
Thu Jun 27, 2019 8:29 am
Forum: Are social workers worried about domestic violence in your family?
Topic: Judge removed baby based on past DA relationship
Replies: 3
Views: 1349

Re: Judge removed baby based on past DA relationship

I've just realised the judge made no such comment about us being 'as bad as each other' nor have he made a findings to say thats the case! It was the social worker who tried claiming that i need to take responsibility for the abuse that took place and the judge was just repeating her point of few in...
by QuestionMark
Thu Jun 27, 2019 8:27 am
Forum: General Discussion
Topic: Is the social worker allowed to just call me names?
Replies: 1
Views: 805

Is the social worker allowed to just call me names?

She's called me "manipulative", told me i "don't take responsibility" for things, told me i "lack empathy" all sorts of horrific things to say to a grieving parent. She's even told me that I was "as bad as" my ex regarding abuse. But the judge has not made any findings that call me any names at all,...
by QuestionMark
Wed Jun 26, 2019 9:39 am
Forum: Do you have a child in care?
Topic: I asked SW what i can do
Replies: 2
Views: 1005

I asked SW what i can do

I asked SW what i can do/need to do to have a child in my care one day. SW said 'nothing' then told me i've been through 'a lot of emotional trauma' and i 'need counselling'. She then said 'time' needs to pass and i need to 'mature'. Also spoke to a barrister who said SW shouldn't be claiming 'mutua...
by QuestionMark
Sat Jun 22, 2019 9:48 am
Forum: General Discussion
Topic: Acceptance/ Trying to understand myself and my situation.
Replies: 2
Views: 1052

Acceptance/ Trying to understand myself and my situation.

I keep reflecting on my childhood, and trying to break down the barriers I put up to protect myself. To begin with, I actually think my mam may have been abusive - and this is really hard for me to even think about. The thing is, she never physically hurt me and I always thought that DA was purely a...