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by DD2SS
Mon Aug 20, 2018 8:46 pm
Forum: Are social workers worried about your child?
Topic: what to say to the kids
Replies: 6
Views: 3169

Re: what to say to the kids

Sorry it's taken me a while to get back to you. I think you're doing brilliantly and doing all the right things, you're so child focused. You're not even at sentencing yet, it's such early days. Give yourself time - if he gets a custodial sentence things are well out of your hands fo the time being ...
by DD2SS
Tue Aug 14, 2018 5:18 pm
Forum: Are social workers worried about your child?
Topic: what to say to the kids
Replies: 6
Views: 3169

Re: what to say to the kids

I know, it's difficult, it really is. I think the reality is no one really knows what risk he poses at this time. People who commit this crime have already deceived and hidden behaviours from others, often for a long time. It'll take time - a long time - for him to do the work he needs to sort himse...
by DD2SS
Tue Aug 14, 2018 2:46 pm
Forum: Are social workers worried about your child?
Topic: what to say to the kids
Replies: 6
Views: 3169

Re: what to say to the kids

Hi there, Hopefully this thread might be useful to you: http://www.frg.org.uk/ParentsForum/viewtopic.php?f=16&t=1614&sid=cce6d1ee492513cd2c662f19ebfd73d2 While things are so chaotic for you, I think what you say there is already a good start: "even that he has done somenthing wrong he still loves a ...
by DD2SS
Wed Jul 18, 2018 9:08 am
Forum: Are social workers worried about your child?
Topic: Social services ignoring sopo
Replies: 13
Views: 6286

Re: Social services ignoring sopo

Hi Lily14, I say all this without legal training, so please get legal help if you need to. The criminal court sets out a SOPO based on the evidence of the criminal case, usually a criminal justice social work report, and any other relevant evidence. This is unlikely to include an individualised asse...
by DD2SS
Fri Jul 13, 2018 11:24 am
Forum: General Discussion
Topic: Talking to children about parents convictions
Replies: 13
Views: 6266

Re: Talking to children about parents convictions

Sorry, just wanted to say one more thing. We were fortunate in that our Cafcass officer was excellent (private law case), had befriended the children, and was very neutral when disclosing (with mum present). Not sure who you have available to you to help out, but obviously who gives the information ...
by DD2SS
Fri Jul 13, 2018 11:12 am
Forum: General Discussion
Topic: Talking to children about parents convictions
Replies: 13
Views: 6266

Re: Talking to children about parents convictions

Hi all, glad it was helpful. Freddie: I don't think you should feel bad or worried at all about the NSPCC's "good touches, bad touches" approach, that is all part of self protection and it's good that they learn about it. In your case, it doesn't sound like it would be directly related (or contextua...
by DD2SS
Mon Jul 02, 2018 3:22 pm
Forum: General Discussion
Topic: Talking to children about parents convictions
Replies: 13
Views: 6266

Re: Talking to children about parents convictions

Hi Bees, This is such an important topic, and not one people really talk about. It is so difficult to tackle head on. While the NSPCC provide some good information on self-protection for children - which of course should be part of any child's education and is an important aspect of discussions - th...
by DD2SS
Thu Jun 28, 2018 4:03 pm
Forum: General Discussion
Topic: Talking to children about parents convictions
Replies: 13
Views: 6266

Re: Talking to children about parents convictions

Hi Bees, I have personal experience of this with my two of similar age and we've had the benefit of some child psychologist advice. I want to write about this properly but I won't be able to get to it for a few days, bear with me please but I will write soon.
by DD2SS
Thu May 17, 2018 4:47 pm
Forum: General
Topic: My husband downloaded indecent images
Replies: 51
Views: 29711

Re: My husband downloaded indecent images

Hey, glad it was a bit of help. It's only natural that you should feel sorry for him, I wouldn't feel bad about that, but it doesn't change the fact he is the sole architect of the problem and he will need to do the legwork to (im)prove himself and that will take time. Remember your doctor too if yo...