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by DD2SS
Sat Dec 15, 2018 11:13 am
Forum: Are social workers worried about your child?
Topic: Time together as a couple advice
Replies: 49
Views: 2078

Re: Time together as a couple advice

Hi May, Solicitors and barristers are both types of lawyer - I'm using lawyer to mean solicitor here. As I say, I'm not sure that a second opinion is necessary - the psychologist is broadly supportive of your case, although you might not see it like that at the moment. This is something you should t...
by DD2SS
Fri Dec 14, 2018 10:26 pm
Forum: Are social workers worried about your child?
Topic: Time together as a couple advice
Replies: 49
Views: 2078

Re: Time together as a couple advice

Hi May, Unfortunately I can't write too much this evening but I did want to say: keep calm! It is good that they are making the referral for you too. You are sounding very reasonable indeed: you are taking things step-by-step, where your relationship is a secondary issue to i) protecting the childre...
by DD2SS
Tue Dec 11, 2018 1:26 pm
Forum: Are social workers worried about your child?
Topic: Time together as a couple advice
Replies: 49
Views: 2078

Re: Time together as a couple advice

Hi May, Sorry to hear that the report wasn't everything you hoped for. If it makes you feel any better, I was devastated after I received my psychologist report, which contained a lot of unpleasant words that really upset me. It took another two years before some sort of acceptable compromise was re...
by DD2SS
Tue Nov 27, 2018 10:36 am
Forum: Are social workers worried about your child?
Topic: Advice needed, what should or can I do.
Replies: 3
Views: 337

Re: Advice needed, what should or can I do.

Morning HopefulDad As PSD says, you have not got a criminal conviction and you don't have and restrictions on you, so you can do as you did before the event from the legal perspective. However, as you have already found out, CS do not work to the same evidence level (balance of probabilities) as the...
by DD2SS
Mon Nov 26, 2018 3:18 pm
Forum: Are social workers worried about your child?
Topic: Married to a sex offender worried how this is going to affect our grand children
Replies: 14
Views: 2776

Re: Married to a sex offender worried how this is going to affect our grand children

Thankfully, disqualification by association was essentially scrapped. We don't know the facts of Mitzi's case, she doesn't say what risks he poses/posed, only that he wasn't at risk of grooming. There are other risks he may have posed. It sounds like the family found some sort of compromise they cou...
by DD2SS
Mon Nov 26, 2018 3:01 pm
Forum: General Discussion
Topic: Experiences of sex offender living with baby
Replies: 6
Views: 447

Re: Experiences of sex offender living with baby

Hi hulahoop When I was on the SOR, I remember the police saying to me "you're not thinking of having kids with [my partner] at the moment are you? Children's services will give you a world of pain!" Judging by a lot of the stories on this forum, that was probably good advice! It seems to me that the...
by DD2SS
Wed Nov 07, 2018 7:06 pm
Forum: Are social workers worried about your child?
Topic: Time together as a couple advice
Replies: 49
Views: 2078

Re: Time together as a couple advice

Hi PSD, I'm glad that the time with the kids is going well. Don't write off contact centres, they can provide support through transition to unsupervised contact when that is appropriate and objective/professional evidence of your positive interactions with the kids. That might be something that coul...
by DD2SS
Tue Nov 06, 2018 5:01 pm
Forum: Are social workers worried about your child?
Topic: Time together as a couple advice
Replies: 49
Views: 2078

Re: Time together as a couple advice

Hi May, So briefly, I'm an ex-offender with what looks like a similar history to your husband. It has taken several years including a few in court to regain normal child arrangements with my children (similar ages to your own), but I now enjoy an excellent relationship with them and it has all been ...
by DD2SS
Mon Nov 05, 2018 11:36 am
Forum: Are social workers worried about your child?
Topic: Time together as a couple advice
Replies: 49
Views: 2078

Re: Time together as a couple advice

Hi May, Good luck, hope it all goes well and your way. I see a lot of positives here. I know it doesn't feel like things can ever get back to "normal", but it can and they do. These assessments may not be the end of things and you might have more work to do, but time can work in your favour. Remembe...
by DD2SS
Sun Nov 04, 2018 9:09 pm
Forum: Are social workers worried about your child?
Topic: Time together as a couple advice
Replies: 49
Views: 2078

Re: Time together as a couple advice

Hi May, What a tough ride. Yes, I think you definitely need to that first social worker out of your mind - it's in the past but I know it repeats on you when people are so horrible. Reading between the lines, it looks like CS are prepared to support reunification if the evidence supports them. The i...