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by PerfectlySafeDad
Tue Dec 11, 2018 2:13 am
Forum: Are social workers worried about your child?
Topic: Time together as a couple advice
Replies: 37
Views: 1712

Re: Time together as a couple advice

Re. these 'professional' reports, 'independent' reports, 'expert' reports etc, it strikes me there is a lot of money in it for some. Safeguarding has become a veritable 'industry', with all the connections and economic relationships that the term embodies. Safeguarding long since burst its banks, it...
by PerfectlySafeDad
Sat Dec 08, 2018 6:39 pm
Forum: Are social workers worried about your child?
Topic: Time together as a couple advice
Replies: 37
Views: 1712

Re: Time together as a couple advice

It's plain to see it's all about back-covering, with every agency everywhere, in every walk of life. There's an absence of any genuine compassion involved, for either you, the Dad or - most ironically - the children. It's on the latter basis that they might be able to be called to account one day. I...
by PerfectlySafeDad
Fri Dec 07, 2018 7:57 pm
Forum: Are social workers worried about your child?
Topic: Written agreements?
Replies: 8
Views: 11161

Re: Written agreements?

Yep, much as I detest and fear social services - and with good reason I think, as it's evident you don't actually need to put a foot wrong to end up in one of their investigations, so God help you if you have done something wrong - the advisors on here (however many Suzie's there are) are just that;...
by PerfectlySafeDad
Thu Dec 06, 2018 8:52 pm
Forum: Are social workers worried about your child?
Topic: False allegation made by my child
Replies: 13
Views: 213

Re: False allegation made by my child

This is unbelievable. All stemming from a false allegation by a disaffected child? No actual evidence or history of harm whatsoever? I can only think that they might be wanting to figure out why a child would be so volatile as to make such an accusation, rather than truly believing you as a parent a...
by PerfectlySafeDad
Tue Dec 04, 2018 1:14 pm
Forum: Are social workers worried about your child?
Topic: my story and advice
Replies: 14
Views: 4130

Re: my story and advice

Things will get better with time. A person never forgets a parent, it's a fairly basic concept in anyone's life! Even if they hardly see them, or even if they've never known them, they are going to want to meet their parent. Even if they've heard lots of bad stuff, they're going to want to decide fo...
by PerfectlySafeDad
Mon Dec 03, 2018 9:22 pm
Forum: Are social workers worried about your child?
Topic: probation officer vs children services
Replies: 12
Views: 880

Re: probation officer vs children services

In my own experience, I've discovered that hardly anybody - not even professionals such as police, the medical profession, offenders support groups - seems to understand just how dogmatic and cruel social services are in their opposition to rebuilding offenders families. If the police are supportive...
by PerfectlySafeDad
Mon Dec 03, 2018 9:04 pm
Forum: Are social workers worried about your child?
Topic: my story and advice
Replies: 14
Views: 4130

Re: my story and advice

This is probably not helpful, but in imo your human rights are being crapped on, by one agency after another. It's like a domino effect of bureaucracy and back-covering from one to the next, with nobody able to take it by the scruff of the neck in a humane, rational and effective way because everyth...
by PerfectlySafeDad
Sun Dec 02, 2018 9:25 pm
Forum: Are social workers worried about your child?
Topic: Are we being treated differently?
Replies: 1
Views: 175

Re: Are we being treated differently?

I would say yes, you're definitely being treated differently. It's draconian enough (pure fascism imo) when a biological parent with a 10 year established safe relationship with the kids since birth is in this position, but with a stepdad I expect it's virtually a no-go area to the CS, they give abs...
by PerfectlySafeDad
Tue Nov 27, 2018 4:31 am
Forum: Are social workers worried about your child?
Topic: Advice needed, what should or can I do.
Replies: 3
Views: 208

Re: Advice needed, what should or can I do.

Same old story. They force you apart and the stress and hassle causes breakdown of communication which makes it even harder for you to resist them as a team. As for contact with any child, if you're not charged and not under any bail condition or sexual harm prevention order or sexual risk order and...
by PerfectlySafeDad
Tue Nov 27, 2018 4:04 am
Forum: Are social workers worried about your child?
Topic: Partner arrested for possessing indecent images.
Replies: 7
Views: 2560

Re: Partner arrested for possessing indecent images.

Oh yes, as many have found out here - the Children's Services propensity for downright lying, twisting or inflating of facts and at very least a river of delays, process and bureacratic errors you can expect (some of it deliberate, but in their defence - and it's their only defence for the draconian...