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by PerfectlySafeDad
Sat Jul 21, 2018 10:23 pm
Forum: Are social workers worried about your child?
Topic: Husband downloading child images
Replies: 7
Views: 2575

Re: Husband downloading child images

I can only wish you all luck (and myself and my broken family) with these monsters - the CS, the true monsters in this. They destroy families and hope and exacerbate paranoia. Their 'due process' takes far too long, ludicrously and tragically so, and in the meantime grieving children are left missin...
by PerfectlySafeDad
Sat Jul 21, 2018 10:07 pm
Forum: Are social workers worried about your child?
Topic: Social services ignoring sopo
Replies: 5
Views: 100

Re: Social services ignoring sopo

DDS makes good points in her last paragraph. Sadly, in effect it does amount to admitting powerlessness against, by definition, a Gestapo outfit - since men in my and Lily and her husband's position cannot override it without the continuous menace of care proceedings. My problem is, despite my IO of...
by PerfectlySafeDad
Sat Jul 21, 2018 9:48 pm
Forum: Are social workers worried about your child?
Topic: Social services ignoring sopo
Replies: 5
Views: 100

Re: Social services ignoring sopo

DD2's response is well thought out and detailed, but ethically I still think the position is (or ought to be) clear cut. The criminal court of our land has decreed that a man (your husband in this case) is safe to have unsupervised access to children IF the parent (who understands the situation) and...
by PerfectlySafeDad
Tue Jul 17, 2018 1:30 am
Forum: Are social workers worried about your child?
Topic: Husband downloading child images
Replies: 7
Views: 2575

Re: Husband downloading child images

Three points to make about this case: 1) your husband IS the man you've always known, it's just that he got sick and had this poison as part of him. Your confused feelings of still loving him are instinctively correct. He was speaking out of his own shock and shame at the arrest, and society's stigm...
by PerfectlySafeDad
Tue Jul 17, 2018 1:13 am
Forum: Are social workers worried about your child?
Topic: Social services ignoring sopo
Replies: 5
Views: 100

Re: Social services ignoring sopo

If you yourself are happy for your husband to have unsupervised contact, on no account sign anything! Hopefully they will accept your stance, since they are keen to get you off their books. If not, gather together lots of references of all kinds that support how he has always been a good father and ...
by PerfectlySafeDad
Tue Jul 17, 2018 12:57 am
Forum: Are social workers worried about your child?
Topic: Social services ignoring sopo
Replies: 5
Views: 100

Re: Social services ignoring sopo

They are being incompetent or arrogant or a mixture of both. In cases like this, they are often unsure how to interpret a SOPO. Therefore they take the simplest draconian course - a blanket unsupervised contact ban. It seems to me they are trying to reduce their caseload whilst at the same time cove...
by PerfectlySafeDad
Wed Feb 21, 2018 9:41 pm
Forum: Are social workers worried about your child?
Topic: Child Protection
Replies: 2
Views: 1075

Re: Child Protection

BBmum - your story angers me too, just by reading it. Keep strong, whatever you do, or at least hide your moments of weakness in private. If they spot you in a 'bad moment', they'll use it as ammunition to pursue you down the mental health route. This is what they do; their involvement, all the insa...
by PerfectlySafeDad
Wed Feb 21, 2018 9:31 pm
Forum: Are social workers worried about your child?
Topic: Help/Advice Appreciated
Replies: 11
Views: 2617

Re: Help/Advice Appreciated

'I am now under the impression that I am being victimised and also harassed by social services.' - you are; it's what they do. They create many many victims among children and parents. 'Are they trying to catch me out in something?' - Yes. they're probably trying to get a random impression of what y...
by PerfectlySafeDad
Wed Feb 21, 2018 9:13 pm
Forum: Are social workers worried about your child?
Topic: Social services involvement
Replies: 5
Views: 2037

Re: Social services involvement

The incompetence and disruption is unbelievable. I wish you luck with these people. If you refuse 'support' on the grounds you don't need it, you'll be labelled a 'risk'. If you accept support, you'll be in effect admitting you're a 'risk' and you'll receive nothing but bureaucracy, disruption and s...
by PerfectlySafeDad
Tue Feb 20, 2018 1:07 am
Forum: Are social workers worried about your child?
Topic: what if there is no 'unsupervized contact' prohibition on a SHPO?
Replies: 1
Views: 949

what if there is no 'unsupervized contact' prohibition on a SHPO?

If a Dad convicted of indecent images has an SHPO which does not include any clause about contact (ie internet prohibitions only), thereby no legal restriction on him seeing his own children, exactly what power does Children's Services have to step in if the Dad ignores them and just goes about such...

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