What to do?

yogibear
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Re: What to do?

Postby yogibear » Mon Jan 24, 2011 10:41 pm

As we are going to court again next Mon, can any one help? Contact has not gone well.... with either Mum or Dad not turning up or turning up late, all logged and text messages saved. What sort of contact will they be allowed? If we get the ro, as at the moment she is now saying she is going to fight it? We have wasted the last 2 weekends waiting in for his mum on a Sat and his Dad on a Sunday....... What sort of contact is reasonable? As these two seem to treat us as babysitters and they can visit as an when they choose...

Of all the things I've lost. I miss my mind the most.
Of all the things I've lost. I miss my mind the most.

Kate
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Re: What to do?

Postby Kate » Tue Jan 25, 2011 12:08 am

Hi yogibear, sorry mum and dad have both proved so unreliable over contact but good that you have it all logged. I think there will be others here with a better idea of what contact would be reasonable given this, but it doesn't sound to me as if anything like eg a weekly or even fortnightly contact would be reasonable if they're just going to mess your g/s and you around like this.

What would you consider a reasonable/appropriate amount of contact yourself?

yogibear
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Re: What to do?

Postby yogibear » Tue Jan 25, 2011 8:32 am

Oh Kate how do I answer that? before reading lots on here, I would probably have said never!!But I now have a better understanding and realise he should have contact with both of them. Last night was awful, she was very confrontational, ( I'm quite frightened of her, so my husband has to be here also) How ever hard we tried to keep things calm, she shouts, and although the lad was in his room he must have heard some of it,( I know he did as we have had a little chat about it') At one point I had my phone in hand to call Police, My husband has the patience of a saint!!And even he has said enough now... She wont accept any of this is her fault and tells any one who will listen..I'm trying to steal her son..So I hope contact can be away from us.... then I hope it wont as she can't feed him lies if we're there?

Of all the things I've lost. I miss my mind the most.
Of all the things I've lost. I miss my mind the most.

maricharle
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Re: What to do?

Postby maricharle » Fri Jan 28, 2011 6:45 pm

Hi Yogibear. Wishing you all the very best for Monday I hope everything goes well for you and that you get the R.O. I also hope you have been able to sort out the contact issues you raised a few days ago. You could ask for some time to let things settle down a little if you get the order. Best of luck. Maricharle

jenmarie
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Re: What to do?

Postby jenmarie » Fri Jan 28, 2011 8:51 pm

Good luck for Monday. Hope it all goes well. You'll be in my thoughts. xx

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Re: What to do?

Postby Kate » Fri Jan 28, 2011 9:52 pm

Hi yogibear, wishing you the very best for Monday and I'm really sorry I missed your post about the confrontation the other night. Thinking of you and sending a cyberhug {{{{{{{{{yogi}}}}}}}}}}

yogibear
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Re: What to do?

Postby yogibear » Mon Jan 31, 2011 2:43 pm

Daughter came with a Solicitor this time, and announced she's contesting Residency.Judge has ordered an independant Psychiatric Dr's report, at
Of all the things I've lost. I miss my mind the most.

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Re: What to do?

Postby Kate » Mon Jan 31, 2011 4:48 pm

So sorry to hear this yogibear. It beggars belief that you have to pay out

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Re: What to do?

Postby youngagain » Mon Jan 31, 2011 9:08 pm

Hi yogibear, I would be disappointed too if i were you. I do not see how the bill for the psyche thing fall on your lap who is it for and for what purpose?
I assume the mother has legal aid, they are tightening up on the funding for it.We had various full hearing dates set and a right nightmare to be frank but it never went that far.

yogibear
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Re: What to do?

Postby yogibear » Mon Jan 31, 2011 9:56 pm

Thanks folks, really really down tonight. Judge ordered Drs report on mother as she has bi-polar, uses drink and drugs. As we are self funding we have to pay half, while she gets legal aid!! Our Solicitor thinks she will struggle to get funding for a trial as the Social Services report is very bad? ( she has been sectioned twice, stabbed her husband..is still with the b/f who has put her in hospital etc etc) So so awful in court, at the end of the day... she's still my daughter, and I don't even like her any more. We have been asking for hair strand tests since October, as cocaine lasts three months, as she hasn't had her legal aid approved yet, they wont agree to do it yet, she'll probably manage to stay off it for long enough to pass?

Of all the things I've lost. I miss my mind the most.
Of all the things I've lost. I miss my mind the most.


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