Holding R/O in my hand and total costs of R/O bill

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Holding R/O in my hand and total costs of R/O bill

Postby Jacobswell » Wed May 26, 2010 10:32 am


The stamped Residence Order has just arrived in my favour and that reasonable contact regarding my g/d be in favour of my daughter.

Any problems and back to court, sure hope it does not come to this in the future, I believe my daughter and I have ironed out most of it.

My final bill has cost

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Re: Holding R/O in my hand and total costs of R/O bill

Postby Robin D » Wed May 26, 2010 12:58 pm

Congratulations on getting the order and also on keeping the costs down.

Unfortunately some of us had spent many times more than that! [:(]

Now to start on being a parent all over again.

Good luck ..... Robin

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Re: Holding R/O in my hand and total costs of R/O bill

Postby Help 1870 » Wed May 26, 2010 3:13 pm


You have the RO now, congratulations for that, your g/d is now safe and secure.

I was fortunate that we got non means tested legal aid as the children had been placed with me when SS applied for their CO. Our legal aid bill ran to 24K. Without that i would have had no chance and would probably ended up representing myself. Well done for keeping the costs down. Others will hopefully benefit from how you did it.

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Postby Kate » Wed May 26, 2010 5:07 pm

Many congratulations Jacobswell, you got there in the end! [:)][:D][:)]

It's all wrong that you had to pay the legal bill which is a lot of money to someone in your position. The system stinks. We were very thankful our daughter didn't contest the RO so we did it ourselves and just had to pay the

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Postby ied53 » Wed May 26, 2010 7:43 pm

wonderful news

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Re: Holding R/O in my hand and total costs of R/O bill

Postby Jacobswell » Fri Sep 27, 2013 12:22 pm

I have not been on here for over 3 years I believe and its not been the easiest 3 years, my g/d is in her final year before starting secondary school, I have retired and finally my daughter was just released from her first time in prison (only 6 weeks) on Wednesday this week (Sept 2013) for theft/deception to feed her habit. My daughter said whilst she was in prison that she was going to give her long term boyfriend an ultimatum that he gets himself clean off injecting heroin, that he gets a proper full time legal job and that he makes an honest woman of her (quite laughable). On Wednesday when she was released with a tag on for the next 30 days, she went right back to her home with her boyfriend in place who is working under the arm no signs of making an honest woman of her. She (my daughter ) told me that she is going to go to Court again and get my g/d back as she is almost 3 weeks clean and she can be on methodone if she wants and still have her daughter back living with . I feel like I have had all the air let out of me, as its like here we go again. I was hoping and praying she would do the full 26 weeks that was given her but its not been the case, I thought after 26 weeks she would stand a better chance but it looks like it s the opposite :( I do not have the funds for fighting in court, and because of my home I cannot get legal aid, would I be able to stand and fight this myself in a court for my g/d ? Of course remembering my gd loves her mummy regardless.. Help??

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Postby ied53 » Fri Sep 27, 2013 3:20 pm

As legal aid has gone for family court and your daughter is only just on the out personally I would be very surprised
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Re: Holding R/O in my hand and total costs of R/O bill

Postby David Roth » Mon Sep 30, 2013 12:54 pm

Jacobswell, your daughter will have to get the leave (permission) of the court before she can apply to have the SGO discharged. The court won't give that permission unless 'there has been a significant change in circumstances since the making of the special guardianship order'. From what you have said, her circumstances have hardly changed at all.
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Re: Holding R/O in my hand and total costs of R/O bill

Postby Jacobswell » Mon Sep 30, 2013 1:54 pm

Thank you David, but I was given a Residents Order if I had known or could have seen further into the future I most definitely would have gone for a SGO as it is far better and in our case would have been the better option, although my Solicitor said we should go for a RO. I can also say that my daughter is now going down as route to see the Mental Health Team apparently to get herself a sick note, although she has not worked legally since she was 18 years old and now is 35 yrs old, she pleads she is not fit to work this goes for her boyfriend as well, yet he is managing to get off with his Mothers help driving him to building work everyday, ready for their Caribbean Cruise for 2 weeks in November. My daughter asked to take her daughter (my granddaughter) and I said absolutely not, that she was not allowed the time off of school and if anything happened to her I would be the one charged and she could be taken from me and put into care. I was told I was being over dramatic and wrecking my granddaughters life by not allowing her to go on this cruise, so far my granddaughter is not aware of this cruise but my daughter seems to be wanting to tell her, that its because I am a mean Nanny. This is why I wished I had gone for the SGO. Its quite laughable that because my daughter has a tag on her ankle until Sept 29th or 30th she cannot venture out between 6.45 pm to 6.45 am everyday, and this week is the very week I have to go to the Secondary Schools for the Open Evenings, and my daughter cannot attend, and cannot criticise because she put herself in this situation not me, but she has a hard job to own up to what she has done, so there is no change in her at all.......Hindsight is a wonderful thing, and I would definitely recommend a SGO for anyone going for custody of a child they love.

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Re: Holding R/O in my hand and total costs of R/O bill

Postby David Roth » Tue Oct 01, 2013 10:59 am

Jacobswell, even although you may have to go back to court, since it is RO not SGO, the court's decision will still be based on what is best for the child. However, that doesn't mean the corut case itself won't be draining for you all to go through, if she does get that far - and the experience of a lot of the other carers here is that parents with the sort of problems you have described are not always the best at getting their act together for something like a court application.
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