Desperate mum, needing urgent advice
Posted: Tue Jun 30, 2020 11:05 pm
Hi there,
I have no idea where else to go for advice, everyone just gives me their emotional opinions but I need more advice from someone who knows.
A couple of weeks ago I was working a night shift, when I go home I noticed a really really faint bruise to my daughters cheek. I phoned my boyfriend and he said he slapped her in the heat of the moment as she wasn’t settling, and that he instantly felt bad. He also told me he is suffering with his mental health and has since been referred for CBT. I obviously kicked him out and broke up with him straight away and then proceeded to take my little girl to a&e.
She had all her scans everything came back clear, apart from her skeletal scan where they found a potential red herring. They weren’t sure if she had growth plates fractures or if it was just the way her bones were developing. She has another scan to confirm what they are. She didn’t in any pain and she is very very strong.
Social services and police are obviously involved.
My issue is I am so so torn.
I am obviously furious with my ex, and extremely protective of her.
But I also do still love him and I can’t just switch that off, we have been through a lot. I don’t know if I’m being manipulated. He has always been an incredible dad to her.
If the scan comes back clear what are social services likely to do? Will be prevent him from seeing my little girl? And will they never be supportive of us being a family again?
I know it sounds mad but I need to know because obviously my little girl is my priority, but I don’t want to get my hopes up for my family being back together if there is no chance of that ever happening.
Police have told me in an informal way that my ex and I can’t have contact until she has her second scan. He keeps texting me telling me how sorry he is and how he wants to fix what he has done. I have stupidly replied. Will they take my little girl away from me because of this?
The social services have said that they will keep me in the loop but at the moment I don’t know what’s going on at all? I’m terrified I’ll have my little girl taken away from me. I’ve always done everything I can for her, I would never put her in harms way. I took her to the hospital knowing that social services would be contacted. I’ve done everything that they’ve asked of me.
I’m honestly at a loss, my little girl is my entire world, 3 weeks ago we were planning on buying a house and I would never have imagined I’d be in this position.
To clarify, my baby comes first. I just need clarification I think. A bit like wake up call. I just want to protect my baby and for her to stay with me. And if that means neither of us will ever see or speak to my ex again then that’s how it has to be. But I need to know so I can properly deal with this situation.
I am doing everything I can to protect my little girl. I don’t want to do anything wrong or anything that will put her at risk or at risk of being taken away.
Thanks for any advice
I have no idea where else to go for advice, everyone just gives me their emotional opinions but I need more advice from someone who knows.
A couple of weeks ago I was working a night shift, when I go home I noticed a really really faint bruise to my daughters cheek. I phoned my boyfriend and he said he slapped her in the heat of the moment as she wasn’t settling, and that he instantly felt bad. He also told me he is suffering with his mental health and has since been referred for CBT. I obviously kicked him out and broke up with him straight away and then proceeded to take my little girl to a&e.
She had all her scans everything came back clear, apart from her skeletal scan where they found a potential red herring. They weren’t sure if she had growth plates fractures or if it was just the way her bones were developing. She has another scan to confirm what they are. She didn’t in any pain and she is very very strong.
Social services and police are obviously involved.
My issue is I am so so torn.
I am obviously furious with my ex, and extremely protective of her.
But I also do still love him and I can’t just switch that off, we have been through a lot. I don’t know if I’m being manipulated. He has always been an incredible dad to her.
If the scan comes back clear what are social services likely to do? Will be prevent him from seeing my little girl? And will they never be supportive of us being a family again?
I know it sounds mad but I need to know because obviously my little girl is my priority, but I don’t want to get my hopes up for my family being back together if there is no chance of that ever happening.
Police have told me in an informal way that my ex and I can’t have contact until she has her second scan. He keeps texting me telling me how sorry he is and how he wants to fix what he has done. I have stupidly replied. Will they take my little girl away from me because of this?
The social services have said that they will keep me in the loop but at the moment I don’t know what’s going on at all? I’m terrified I’ll have my little girl taken away from me. I’ve always done everything I can for her, I would never put her in harms way. I took her to the hospital knowing that social services would be contacted. I’ve done everything that they’ve asked of me.
I’m honestly at a loss, my little girl is my entire world, 3 weeks ago we were planning on buying a house and I would never have imagined I’d be in this position.
To clarify, my baby comes first. I just need clarification I think. A bit like wake up call. I just want to protect my baby and for her to stay with me. And if that means neither of us will ever see or speak to my ex again then that’s how it has to be. But I need to know so I can properly deal with this situation.
I am doing everything I can to protect my little girl. I don’t want to do anything wrong or anything that will put her at risk or at risk of being taken away.
Thanks for any advice