what can we do?
Posted: Sun Nov 09, 2014 11:32 pm
Good evening,
We would be grateful for advise on our situation as we just don't know what we can do. briefly as possible..........we have cared for our g/d with a RO in place. 3 years ago she decided that she was going to live with her mother, she went back and forth, running away each time before we bought her back, just before xmas last year we got her back here because she was in a violent relationship and was pregnant, she went to her 12 week scan covered in bruises. during her pregnancy she violently punched herself in her tummy in temper on at least 3 occasions, ran away to get back to her b/f (he lives 2 hours away by car) and then took an overdose when she was 7 days overdue, (which resulted in her having an emergency c section 3 days after because babies heart rate dropped too low,) so that she could "get the baby out" so she could return to her b/f.
We asked for help from ss when she first returned at beginning of her pregnancy, they put the baby on a cpo as soon as she was born stating that the baby had to stay at our address to stop her taking her to the b/f.
A care plan meeting was held and g/d and baby came home from hospital after 5 days. the first week was fine but things soon got bad, g/d verbally abused baby, was aggressive with her and kept her out late and the police had to bring them home. then at 4 weeks g/d told cpo meeting that she wanted to sign baby over to me and leave. g/d signed papers and left. we were given care and control of baby and have been told we are now her foster parents (but still waiting to be assessed)
while gone she stayed with potential dad 1, left him and went with potential dad 2, told us and ss that she wanted to come back and be with baby but decided to go back to baby dad 1 instead.
after being gone with no contact for almost 3 months she told ss that they both wanted to be assessed. baby dad is not allowed contact due to no dna and his violence and refusing to work with ss, g/d had first supervised contact last week, held in contact centre with ss as we have refused to allow it to happen in our home.
We have now been told that g/d has left b/f 1 and been put in a hostel by ss from b/f area.She now wants to be assessed with the view of getting the baby back.
We have asked ss if we can go to court and get a sgo for the baby and they said no as they will only refer us back to them to be assessed and g/d has to be given the right to be assessed.
Needless to say we are shocked that they could even think of placing the baby back to her and need advise on what we can to to protect the baby.
We have been to one fostering review and were asked if we would adopt the baby if it were to go that way and we said we would without a doubt but we are confused and angry that ss could even think about allowing our g/d to have the baby back.
what can we do to protect the baby?
We would be grateful for advise on our situation as we just don't know what we can do. briefly as possible..........we have cared for our g/d with a RO in place. 3 years ago she decided that she was going to live with her mother, she went back and forth, running away each time before we bought her back, just before xmas last year we got her back here because she was in a violent relationship and was pregnant, she went to her 12 week scan covered in bruises. during her pregnancy she violently punched herself in her tummy in temper on at least 3 occasions, ran away to get back to her b/f (he lives 2 hours away by car) and then took an overdose when she was 7 days overdue, (which resulted in her having an emergency c section 3 days after because babies heart rate dropped too low,) so that she could "get the baby out" so she could return to her b/f.
We asked for help from ss when she first returned at beginning of her pregnancy, they put the baby on a cpo as soon as she was born stating that the baby had to stay at our address to stop her taking her to the b/f.
A care plan meeting was held and g/d and baby came home from hospital after 5 days. the first week was fine but things soon got bad, g/d verbally abused baby, was aggressive with her and kept her out late and the police had to bring them home. then at 4 weeks g/d told cpo meeting that she wanted to sign baby over to me and leave. g/d signed papers and left. we were given care and control of baby and have been told we are now her foster parents (but still waiting to be assessed)
while gone she stayed with potential dad 1, left him and went with potential dad 2, told us and ss that she wanted to come back and be with baby but decided to go back to baby dad 1 instead.
after being gone with no contact for almost 3 months she told ss that they both wanted to be assessed. baby dad is not allowed contact due to no dna and his violence and refusing to work with ss, g/d had first supervised contact last week, held in contact centre with ss as we have refused to allow it to happen in our home.
We have now been told that g/d has left b/f 1 and been put in a hostel by ss from b/f area.She now wants to be assessed with the view of getting the baby back.
We have asked ss if we can go to court and get a sgo for the baby and they said no as they will only refer us back to them to be assessed and g/d has to be given the right to be assessed.
Needless to say we are shocked that they could even think of placing the baby back to her and need advise on what we can to to protect the baby.
We have been to one fostering review and were asked if we would adopt the baby if it were to go that way and we said we would without a doubt but we are confused and angry that ss could even think about allowing our g/d to have the baby back.
what can we do to protect the baby?