Morning everyone,, I think our next move will be a venue like a Wacky Warehouse where it doesn't matter if mum fails to turn up, at least Gd has a good time.We could then extend the contact hours but cut down on the frequency, then everyone is happy

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Our son (daddy) is not so much of an issue, his problem has always been a lack of maturity and insight into Gd's needs, but he is SLOWLY getting better and now has Gd for tea at his house, but overnight stays are still a big no no.He has been in a relationship for nearly 2 years and has a 1 yr old son and 2 stepchildren and seems to be making a good try at family life.They now come to us for advice instead of verbally fighting issues, while his choice of partner is not who we would choose, he is happy and settled at last and that is what counts

.After a shaky start with his partner they are now welcomed in our house and are now all part of our family.Our list of grand children is growing daily lol
I understand mums issues with life as she was an abused child herself and has shown signs of carrying that behaviour over into her adult life and this is what we have to protect Gd from.She can be very thoughtless ie, when Gd visited her new sister mum commented that " you aren't my baby anymore, she is my baby now (pointing to new baby)", that is when the visit was ended on the excuse that we had to go as our lift was waiting.
I'm afraid to say that she seems to see the new baby as a new toy and the old one (Gd) has been dumped,I think any interest she has ever had with her firstborn is quickly disappearing and has done since she found out she was pregnant.This was one of the reasons we felt that less contact was the way to go as Gd would still get to see mum but it gives mum a get out clause without her losing face.
Never mind.. onwards and upwards , bye for now