Fed up with social workers and their lies
Posted: Wed May 14, 2014 5:02 pm
Life is a bit of a turmoil at the moment. We have our grandson on an RO and have been being assesed to foster our grandaughter (who is in local authority care). Alongside this an ex-member of my other half's family has made some very serious allegations (pack of lies) about my husband, which is why grandaughter did not come to us at birth (she wanted to care for the baby, so she could get a bigger house etc, and when she was told we were a better option she made the allegations).
Long story short, 5 months later we are still waiting for some resolution - historical cases are not on anyone's priority list.
In the meantime the care proceedings continue for our grandaughter and the social worker completed a viability assessment on us which was negative due to the ongoing investigations. BUT, it also said that we would not be considered anyway and had a couple of reasons which included a failed viability assessment for our other grandson (different birth parents) a few years ago.
At the time of this first assessment we did not see the report. We were told that it had not been pursued because of the very new re-kindled relationship between us and the birth father so they were looking for other family members. This new report for our grandaughter says that the previous viability assessment failed because of extensive social work involvement with the family in the past.
So I now absolutely know for sure we have been lied to. I suspected as such. How on earth can a professional public servant get away with lying to the people they are working with. I guess she just didn't want to tell us the truth, which is a shame as if we had known the original assessment was negative we would have either challenged it then or never decided to try to foster our grandaughter now. And we might have been able to avoid my other half being subject to malicious allegations. Oh how our lives would be different. The distress of living with sword of damacles above our head is making me ill.
The other side of things now is that despite our grandson thriving and their being no concerns about him being in our care, the viability assessment for his sister says that he is an open case as a 'child in need'. I don't think he meets the definition of child in need. We have a RO. He is not disabled. He is thriving. We have never been told he is 'child in need'. There have been no meetings and there is no plan.
Not to mention that the viability assessment report was written at the very last minute and filed with the court before we had even seen it or had a chance to comment. And it is full of errors and typos. If I had written a report at my work like that my boss would have sent it back with instructions to do it again!
We would have been able to meet the social worker the week before but she cancelled BY EMAIL (she has only ever phoned before) without giving us a reason - cowardly.
I am sick of it. I love my grandson with every ounce of me and I will do all I can to make sure he is safe and remains with me. We have decided not to pursue a private order for my grandaughter as it would probably fail at the moment - I just hope there is a couple out there who want to adopt a baby girl, and I hope we might be able to get family contact with her in the future.
It is a mess. I am tired. I just needed to scream at someone and you guys always support us screamers!!
Long story short, 5 months later we are still waiting for some resolution - historical cases are not on anyone's priority list.
In the meantime the care proceedings continue for our grandaughter and the social worker completed a viability assessment on us which was negative due to the ongoing investigations. BUT, it also said that we would not be considered anyway and had a couple of reasons which included a failed viability assessment for our other grandson (different birth parents) a few years ago.
At the time of this first assessment we did not see the report. We were told that it had not been pursued because of the very new re-kindled relationship between us and the birth father so they were looking for other family members. This new report for our grandaughter says that the previous viability assessment failed because of extensive social work involvement with the family in the past.
So I now absolutely know for sure we have been lied to. I suspected as such. How on earth can a professional public servant get away with lying to the people they are working with. I guess she just didn't want to tell us the truth, which is a shame as if we had known the original assessment was negative we would have either challenged it then or never decided to try to foster our grandaughter now. And we might have been able to avoid my other half being subject to malicious allegations. Oh how our lives would be different. The distress of living with sword of damacles above our head is making me ill.
The other side of things now is that despite our grandson thriving and their being no concerns about him being in our care, the viability assessment for his sister says that he is an open case as a 'child in need'. I don't think he meets the definition of child in need. We have a RO. He is not disabled. He is thriving. We have never been told he is 'child in need'. There have been no meetings and there is no plan.
Not to mention that the viability assessment report was written at the very last minute and filed with the court before we had even seen it or had a chance to comment. And it is full of errors and typos. If I had written a report at my work like that my boss would have sent it back with instructions to do it again!
We would have been able to meet the social worker the week before but she cancelled BY EMAIL (she has only ever phoned before) without giving us a reason - cowardly.
I am sick of it. I love my grandson with every ounce of me and I will do all I can to make sure he is safe and remains with me. We have decided not to pursue a private order for my grandaughter as it would probably fail at the moment - I just hope there is a couple out there who want to adopt a baby girl, and I hope we might be able to get family contact with her in the future.
It is a mess. I am tired. I just needed to scream at someone and you guys always support us screamers!!