getting contact with my grandchildren
Posted: Sun Apr 27, 2014 8:33 pm
my grandchildren were removed from their parents home under a voluntary agreement for one night due to the conditions they were living in absolute squalor the social worker called and asked us to go and collect them after long discussions with the parents who would not let us in the flat to start with and when we did get as far as the lounge it was heartbreaking to think my two grandchildren had been living like that we took the children and had them for four days after which the parents requested their return we were concerned that they could not have possibly made enough improvement to the home for it to be habitable in such a short space of time but the social worker team manager said that lots of families live like that so home they went we continued to have the children each weekend as we had done with my granddaughter since she was five weeks old although we had never been allowed the boy until that day with the social worker they continued to bring them down to the car we were not allowed in the flat although they assured us that they had cleaned it up at the end of November our son left the flat under advice of the social worker and came to live with us the social worker said he would be able to get accommodation if he stayed with us and could make a life with the children away from the flat that was not going to happen all they were offered was b and b during this time we received a letter telling us there was to be a child protection conference and we were invited. which we attended our son refused to come with us and made his own way there when we arrived he was there with the childrens mother who was causing a sean and refusing to come into the meeting if we were there our son came in and we told him he might not like what he was going to hear at which point he became abusive and left the room it was decided that the conference would be held in two parts first with us and then with the parents we were asked to go and have a coffee and they would phone us and let us know the results it was decided that the children would stay with us under a section 20 with the parents consent which they did we had many visits from social workers telling us we should apply to foster the children which we did but were refused due to overcrowding we have two adult children still living at home. we were then told by a new social worker to apply for a residency order and he would get the forms and seek help with paying for it all wrong we have since found out they could not do this if we have been turned down by fostering any how the children stayed with us and we applied for child benefit suddenly the parents removed their consent the children were taken in to foster care we weren't even given the chance to say goodbye and now we cannot even see them as the parents say so social service shut down they do everything they can to avoid talking to us we wrote complaints about how we have been treated but they seem to cling together like magnets and you cannot get anywhere they have a reason for everything even telling us that they say somethings because that's what people want to hear. what chance have we got of ever seeing our grandchildren now we have had our granddaughter every weekend since she was five weeks old she is now five and a half we have never been this long without seeing her it is nine weeks now. does anyone have any suggestions has to win with social services and uncooperative parents please posting.php?mode=post&f=15#