Concerns of SW

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Concerns of SW

Post by Nannywill1 » Tue Apr 02, 2019 5:27 pm

We as grandparents have been passed by foster panel for our grandchild just waiting for SGO , SW still needs to do a couple of visits until then. So now we have learned the SW has came across quite hostile and angry because we don't agree with doing things on her terms as regards to our grandsons mother and him seeing her which is not on a regular basis , so therefore shes requested theres no contact , until she engages with her , we don't agree grandsons mother has seen him in a monitored manner with myself and hubby no problems with grandson after the visit all is well we have explained in a child friendly manner to or grandson we have to go with what were left with regarding his mam , hes absolutely fine and has accepted this , SW has tried to twist things actually lied at 1 point cold this jepourdise our SGO as we are not doing anything wrong and our grandson is happy we would never let his mother into our home if there were any concerns with her , but I believe he has to see his mother , not stop contact like SW suggests .

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Re: Concerns of SW

Post by Suzie, FRG Adviser » Fri Apr 05, 2019 1:51 pm

Dear Nannywill1,

Welcome to the Friends and Family carers discussion board.

As well as being a nanny you are also a foster carer for your grandchild and you are applying for a special guardianship order so you can look after him long term.
There appears to be a difference in opinion between you and the social worker about mum’s contact. The social worker has stopped it temporarily, until mum engages with her assessment. But you have allowed contact to continue against the social workers wishes.
You are worried that the assessment of you could be jeopardised.

I am glad that you have contacted us for advice. You could be jeopardising things by not cooperating with the social worker.

As a foster carer, you do not have powers to make decisions about contact. You must cooperate with the decisions made by children services (including the social worker) even if you do not agree. If you do not cooperate, there is a risk that your grandson could be removed from you.

The social worker will be stopping contact for a reason and it may be due to concerns about how safe your son is with mum. The social worker may have worrying information about mum which she wants to check with her.

The social worker might be worried that you are not able to protect your grandson from mum in the future because you are not cooperating with her.

What can you do?

Get in touch with your “supervising” social worker and let him/her know what has happened. Explain why you have allowed contact to take place.
You could also get in touch or have a meeting with your grandson’ social worker. She could then explain why she has stopped contact and for how long. You can discuss how well contact has been going. She can also explain to you why you need to cooperate with her decisions.

I hope this helps but if you have any questions, please post again or call our advice line on 0808 801 0366.

Best wishes,


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