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by Robin D
Wed Aug 05, 2020 6:43 am
Forum: Natter and chatter
Topic: Need urgent advice
Replies: 81
Views: 16626

Re: Need urgent advice

That is excellent news for you and your grandson. :D
by Robin D
Tue Jul 28, 2020 4:11 pm
Forum: Natter and chatter
Topic: Need urgent advice
Replies: 81
Views: 16626

Re: Need urgent advice

Great news. :D

Let's hope it's a downhill run now.
by Robin D
Tue Jul 21, 2020 7:22 am
Forum: Natter and chatter
Topic: Need urgent advice
Replies: 81
Views: 16626

Re: Need urgent advice

Sorry very quick response as we have a funeral this morning. However I think you just bring the whole thing up at the August hearing and tell the judge that you feel that the SS 'process' is adversely affecting the child.
by Robin D
Fri Jul 17, 2020 6:56 pm
Forum: Natter and chatter
Topic: Need urgent advice
Replies: 81
Views: 16626

Re: Need urgent advice

Fairly typical.

If you are allowed to attend panel, please go. Else write out a short statement explaining that you only agreed with the judge to wait on the understanding that panel would be after the next hearing and send it to CS insisting its submitted to panel.

Good luck ... Robin
by Robin D
Fri Jul 17, 2020 10:58 am
Forum: Assessment
Topic: kinship assessment questions
Replies: 4
Views: 1407

Re: kinship assessment questions

I agree it can be difficult, but talk to family and friends in the next generation you can trust and ask them if the worst happened at any point in the next 20 years, would they take care of the grandchildren, or help you to do so. Not an easy conversation, but at our age, you need to do it. Ask als...
by Robin D
Fri Jul 17, 2020 7:45 am
Forum: Assessment
Topic: kinship assessment questions
Replies: 4
Views: 1407

Re: kinship assessment questions

We put arrangements into our wills should both of us die or become incapacitated specifying our preference for who should look after the child. The child is now 23 so no longer relevant. All they will want to know is that you have thought about it and have a plan agreed to provide for the child, or ...
by Robin D
Tue Jun 23, 2020 3:40 pm
Forum: Natter and chatter
Topic: Need urgent advice
Replies: 81
Views: 16626

Re: Need urgent advice

It's really stressful and at times you will feel out of control. Stay calm, stay safe and concentrate on what is best for your grandchild. Hopefully it will all work out in the end.
by Robin D
Tue Jun 23, 2020 2:12 pm
Forum: Natter and chatter
Topic: Need urgent advice
Replies: 81
Views: 16626

Re: Need urgent advice

They need to speak to people separately to ensure one partner is not being unduly pressured by the other, and both are roughly singing from the same songbook. Nothing unduly to fret about.
by Robin D
Sun Jun 21, 2020 7:20 am
Forum: Natter and chatter
Topic: Urgent advice - child protection conference
Replies: 3
Views: 1079

Re: Urgent advice - child protection conference

I would put it all in, but try to avoid either coming over as a victim, or over doing the comments on his behaviour. Cite a few examples but make it clear they are just a few. Keep it to the facts. Fair comment to draw comparisons between the old report and the fact it's just been rehashed. Just laz...
by Robin D
Fri Jun 19, 2020 5:19 pm
Forum: Natter and chatter
Topic: Urgent advice - child protection conference
Replies: 3
Views: 1079

Re: Urgent advice - child protection conference

Hi At a loss and welcome. So sorry to hear of your experience with your 15 year-old, but believe me, you are far from alone. We too had a violent boy in the home and it sadly ended up with him leaving our care after he assaulted us both many times. The police had to be called on many occasion and he...