Ah thank you Irene. You've made me cry. It's been such a journey thus far my emotions are all over the place. Bit like when you have a baby LOL. I'm not feeling anticlimax yet I think it's more just a general sadness of the permanence for little one and frustration that neither of his parents steppe...

Today was final hearing in court and SGO was granted in our favour for our nephew who has been with us since December. It's been an emotional rollercoaster with the assessment by social services being the most difficult part. I thought I'd be pleased at the outcome as it brings permanence for little...

I am intrigued to learn yet another 'shafting' of FF carers in the difference between adoption rights and SGO rights. If I had agreed to adopt my nephew, as proposed by LA I would be entitled to paid leave like maternity leave from my employer to get things sorted out and settled (this last few mont...

Thank you for the replies. It was helpful to know I was not being overly sensitive. Thought I'd come back and post how this has been resolved. Firstly as we are fostering currently we have a family support social worker. I spoke to her about what had happened. She agreed it was unacceptable and rais...

Thank you for the advice. I have decided to speak to the fostering support social worker first but she's on holiday till Friday. There is contact tomorrow then not till middle of net week and SGO might get granted on Friday anyway so although I still plan to raise this issue it is not urgent. I don'...

It turned out the aquaintance does not work with the contact superviser. That was my wrong assumption as I couldn't see any other circumstances where he would talking about me but when I asked how he knew her he said he met her through online dating. I can't for the life of me think how my name came...

I couldn't decide whether to post this here or in sounding off section! We are currently fostering baby nephew. His dad (my BIL) has supervised contact at our house. Today the superviser is keen to tell me he met someone who knows me. He goes onto remind of an aquaintance I hardly know and haven't s...

Hi, Thanks for replies. We made LA aware last October that we wanted to be considered as alternative carers if required for our nephew. A back-up plan if you like as we recognised the situation and where it might lead. The baby's social worker did a viability assessment over 3 visits and then passed...

Hi, I'm new and sorry to piggyback someone elses page but I wanted to clarify Robin's point about who should apply for the SGO. We have had our nephew with us as fostering since December. There is an Issues Resolution Hearing next week and the LA have recommended he remain with us on an SGO and the ...